Sexual
desire serves an important evolutionary function, in that it is key to
survival of many kinds of organisms including human beings (Robert Sternberg 2001).
This statement implies that sex is a vital aspect of man’s life that
cannot be underestimated or underrated when it come to life’s enjoyment
and fulfillment.
When I published one of my works on signs and symptoms, where I stated that most people are depressed due to sex frustration, a friend of mine felt I was wrong. But then here comes the truth, sexual behavior requires psychosocial balances
to fully engage and enjoy sex.
When our emotions are not in term with our desires there is often a sort of intra-psyche conflict within us. This conflict is usually transferred to others as a mean of defense mechanism. If this conflict is not quickly resolved, it gives way to mild depression in the long run. This is because the individual is from time to time internally disturbed, his emotions and feeling are usually not in term.
When our emotions are not in term with our desires there is often a sort of intra-psyche conflict within us. This conflict is usually transferred to others as a mean of defense mechanism. If this conflict is not quickly resolved, it gives way to mild depression in the long run. This is because the individual is from time to time internally disturbed, his emotions and feeling are usually not in term.
Depression is a state of intra-psyche conflict
meaning there is trouble when the internal structures called id, ego
and super ego. This means the three internal component are not in agreement, that is using the psychoanalytical
explanation.
We can still used the humanistic explanation to say that an individual could also have some self concept disturbances. However, all of them point to the same direction. Let’s take the case of a young man who married a young beautiful tall looking lady because of her sexy looking figure, only to discover that what he originally proposed was not what he is seeing. He could be that he married the lady because of her sexual figure but then things change and his expectations begin to develop some negative ideation and feeling which if not quickly control could result to more serious psychological problems- depression.
These negative idealizations process could be exhibitionism; voyeurism, pedophilia, sexual masochism, and inability to control develop a proper sexual behavior. In most cases, when the problem persists without a solution, the individual resort to lack of interest in virtually everything about sex, he begins to hate sex and sexual intercourse. When this mental disturbances begin to occur more often, the individual show signs and symptoms of social withdrawal.
We can still used the humanistic explanation to say that an individual could also have some self concept disturbances. However, all of them point to the same direction. Let’s take the case of a young man who married a young beautiful tall looking lady because of her sexy looking figure, only to discover that what he originally proposed was not what he is seeing. He could be that he married the lady because of her sexual figure but then things change and his expectations begin to develop some negative ideation and feeling which if not quickly control could result to more serious psychological problems- depression.
These negative idealizations process could be exhibitionism; voyeurism, pedophilia, sexual masochism, and inability to control develop a proper sexual behavior. In most cases, when the problem persists without a solution, the individual resort to lack of interest in virtually everything about sex, he begins to hate sex and sexual intercourse. When this mental disturbances begin to occur more often, the individual show signs and symptoms of social withdrawal.
Many individuals report that their fantasies are always present but that there are periods of time when the frequency of the sexual fantasies and intensity of the urges vary substantially (DSM –IV pg 405 and 568).
Another problem is the use of sexually enhance drugs to elicit sexual pleasures and long lasting performances, yielding to another more serious problem called SUBSTANCE-INDUCED MOOD DISORDER
- A condition characterized by predominant and persistence disturbances
in mood. This depressive disorder is due to prolong effect and abuse
associated with the drugs. This depressive disorder is caused by direct
psychological effect of drugs abuse or drugs dependency.
Sex is natural and must be enjoyed without any external enhancer whatsoever.
Sex is natural and must be enjoyed without any external enhancer whatsoever.
These
set of human beings develop a delusional fantasies due to their
inabilities to fulfill their sexual behaviors. These behaviors may
increase in response to psychological stressors and in relation to other mental disorders or inability to fully engage in sexual activities.
Now let’s see properly how these two variables affect each other.
1. One of the signs and symptoms of depression is the lack of interest or pleasure in nearly all forms of sexual activities
and sexual relationships ranging from courtship to marriage. This is a
vivid picture of broken homes and divorces in our recent time.
2. Many
people are becoming victims of depression as a result of substance
induced mood disorders due to the fact that they cannot fully enjoy what
sex is all about. Many who find their selves frustrated resort to some
other ways of sexual gratification or unnatural sexual behaviors such as
masturbation, exhibitionism, voyeurism, pedophilia, and many more distorting the reality of what sex what original designed for.
3. Depression gives us a wrong mental cognition
about sex, which is the reason many people will tell you, I don’t like
sex, and I hate sex. The secret is that they don’t enjoy the efficacy of
sex. Even when they are forced into sex they don’t see anything worth
in it, thereby placing us on both spiritual and psychological bondage.
